JUST WIN IT

In the last months, I was witness of many shameful incidents in my country, and due my life experience with other nationalities I believe, it is the same thing everywhere. I was in a bus, an old women did not want to pay the full fare, adducing that she paid before less than that, the fare collector asked her with good manners to pay the full price otherwise she can get off from the bus and take another one, she knew she was wrong I told her that the man was right, but she insult the good man, saying that she is an old woman and she deserve respect…. And then I asked myself, what respect she was talking about?; another day I was in another bus, the seats on the front part of it were occupied by women, then a senior woman got on the bus, of course the youngest woman had to cede the seat to her, but she did not, another woman older than her did it, then a man was standing next to me said “sorry lady but you were the right one to cede the seat to that old woman” she response in an aggressive way, and then he answer  in the same way (believe me I would do it too)after he man’s rude answer she said that he was a coward to argue with a woman, so a woman can be rude with a man and it is fine?; after a couple of weeks in the line to get an appointment in the public hospital an old man screamed to a young lady because he was taking too long but it was not her fault, she screamed back to him but without insulting, then the old man exclaimed “Today’s youth is getting crazy they don’t know what respect means ”, and then I thought so I have to wait to become old to scream everybody?.

So now I will ask, what respect really means, according the dictionary is “the action to value somebody or something” and tell me anybody thinks that the old woman, the young lady and the old man showed respect to the other persons in the stories; I don’t know what you think but for me definitely not; the old woman had to pay what it is, doesn’t matter what age she got, according Peruvian law just identified students  can pay half of fare, the rest we can’t; in the young lady case, I can’t accept that a woman can insult and be rude with a man and it seems right, if a woman insult a man without any valid reason I believe that he can insult back to her, we have the same rights before the law and god , sometimes some girls don’t believe that when it suits them and become the fairer sex back again; and with the third case, that old man can’t scream a young person whenever he wants, be old doesn’t mean everybody have to respect you, what’s more he must be an example how to respect.

I don’t really know if I am right with my reflection this time, but for me respect must be gained, not because I am an old man I will demand respect, I have to earn it I have to be respectful because people feel it towards to me; not because I am a lady I have to wait all men respect me, a man can’t respect a bitch in the same way as an upstanding woman is not fear; you will not respect a boss who is a real leader in the same way as a boss who is a complete asshole, because you are a father you have to wait respect from your kids regardless how you behave, you have to lead by the example, I would like my daughter will call me because she remember me not because somebody says call your dad any ways he is your dad, I will feel like I was not a good enough father.

There is something called urban law, It says that we have to greet the old people and respect them, but I believe that every single person have to be worried to inspire that respect, if they want it back.

With all respect you earned ……see you next time!

Jorge Horna.